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We've all been there: desperately needing a moment of quiet, only to be interrupted by a colleague's lengthy monologue. But what happens when that monologue takes place inside a bathroom stall? Today, etiquette expert Judith Martin tackles a particularly delicate situation – how to politely but firmly request some privacy from a chatty coworker while you're trying to, well, take care of business.

The questioner writes to Miss Manners about a colleague who habitually uses bathroom stalls as an opportunity to share detailed accounts of her health issues. While the intentions may be good (or perhaps simply a lack of awareness), the unsolicited information and constant chatter are disrupting the questioner's peace and quiet – and, frankly, crossing a line of professional decorum.

The Delicate Dance of Bathroom Etiquette

Miss Manners acknowledges the awkwardness of the situation. Direct confrontation could be perceived as rude or insensitive, especially given the personal nature of the topic. However, allowing the behavior to continue unchecked can lead to significant stress and discomfort for the questioner.

Her solution? A carefully worded, gentle request. Miss Manners suggests using a phrase like, “I’m so sorry to interrupt, but I really need a moment of quiet right now.” This acknowledges the coworker’s presence and intentions without being accusatory. The emphasis on needing “a moment of quiet” is key – it focuses on the questioner’s need rather than criticizing the coworker’s behavior.

Beyond the Stall: Addressing the Underlying Issue

While the immediate solution addresses the bathroom situation, Miss Manners also subtly hints at a larger issue: the boundaries of workplace sharing. She implies that while occasional sharing of personal information can build camaraderie, constant and unsolicited details about health problems are inappropriate for a professional setting.

The advice isn't just about bathroom etiquette; it's about establishing healthy boundaries in the workplace. It’s a reminder that even well-meaning colleagues need to be mindful of others’ comfort and privacy.

Key Takeaways for a More Peaceful Workplace

• Prioritize Politeness: A gentle and respectful approach is always best, even when dealing with frustrating situations.
• Focus on Your Needs: Frame your request in terms of what *you* need, rather than criticizing the other person's behavior.
• Establish Boundaries: Don't be afraid to politely but firmly set boundaries in the workplace.
• Consider the Bigger Picture: Recognize that this situation might be a symptom of a larger issue regarding workplace boundaries and communication.

So, the next time you find yourself trapped in a bathroom stall with a chatty colleague, remember Miss Manners' advice. A little politeness and a clear request for privacy can go a long way toward restoring your peace of mind – and maintaining a more respectful workplace.